"The way a thing starts, is the way it will go, and the way it will end." -Venus Andrecht
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An artist's interpretation of
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I absolutely
love that saying. Venus Andrecht is an intuitive reader who has a down-home, motherly way about her. She's that scolding but loving mother we all know and love. I'm not sure she actually thought up that saying herself, but the first time I heard it, she was the one who had spoken it, so I credited her with it.
But, it struck such a chord within me. Relative to my life experiences, I instantly took it as not merely a clever saying, but as a "truth." Invariably, I can say that the way a thing has started in my life, the tone it took from the very beginning, was in deed the way it continued to be as it progressed. And it tended to end the way it began.
And I have learned through brutal trial and error not to ignore any "hunch" I experience, through feelings or through visions, be they pleasant or unsettling. I've made so many mistakes by not listening to my hunches, not paying attention to my feelings and visions. The truth is, if it doesn't feel right to you in the beginning, it probably isn't right for you, whether it's a material thing, a person, a food of some sort, an event, or anything else that requires a decision on your part. Conversely, if it does feel like the right move to make, if it does feel like a healthy, loving direction in which to steer your life, then don't allow your analytical (and usually critical) "monkey mind" to talk you out of it; just go for it!
Often, we allow our chatty left brains to talk us out of what our wise, intuitive right brains are desperately trying to tell us, those sweet little Venus Andrechts sitting upon our shoulders trying to keep us true to ourselves. Speak your truth. Let your life reflect it.
What Not to Do
Fear is an interesting thing. Our fixation on it causes us to believe in or express untruths sometimes, the reasoning being, "I have to lie about
this, because if I don't, I fear that
that will happen." But we often learn in the end that in life, you just gotta deal with the consequence of speaking your inner truth. And there usually is a consequence of some sort. But owning up to your truth is part of "being an adult."
If you start something in a disingenuous way, that tone of deceptiveness will permeate the rest of the entire endeavor or relationship. You learn that this is what not to do, since eventually, someone will find you out and the deceptiveness you brought to the table in the beginning, is the
very thing that "does you in" at the end. Or, along the way, you may actually get disgusted with yourself, which would actually be a good thing, a sign that your soul wants to live its truth, not live in lies anymore.
Holidays tend to bring out the best and worst in people, so they're a great chance to observe what
to do, and what
not to do. For example, one day a week or two before Christmas, this handsome, ostensibly intelligent guy walks into the metaphysical store where I work. He haphazardly stockpiles in his arms yoga- and meditation-related items. Anything we recommended he just picked up. He had no clue. At first, I and the other lady on the sales floor thought he was just an ambitious guy with good intentions, and his enthusiasm seemed, for a brief moment, charming.
But then, something didn't feel right about him. His presence began to feel kind of "seedy" to me and to the other lady, as I later found out when we compared notes. After a while, his true motivations began to slowly unravel. After admitting the items weren't for him, but for a woman he met, he then pulls me aside.
"OK, what do I get to get her, you know...." he mumbles.
"Get her what? Sorry, I'm not following you." By this time, my Creep-o-meter is beeping quite loudly.