When Haters Are a Good Thing
Once, a colleague of mine did a reading for this person. As we talked afterward, I could really see this person's troubling energy dynamic, just as my reader friend saw it. This person was bright, beautiful, and talented ...and inundated with haters. I mean, you could see the vampiric energy taking bites all over this person's auric field, mainly from the solar plexus chakra area, the seat of our self-esteem energy.
This person complained of feeling overwhelmed and uncharacteristically indecisive, and aware that this was the result of the cumulative effect of the psychic attacks, yet unsure how to handle it. I suggested trying to turn this energy dynamic around. As we spoke, a couple ways of doing this immediately came to my mind.
Firstly, one could change one's perspective regarding haters, their very presence in one's life. But first, it's helpful to understand their nature and motives.
This is what I've observed about them: haters seem to suffer from a nagging sense of lack. They don't appreciate their unique contribution to the Earth, who they are, what their talents or life purpose are, etc. Rather than take the time to look within and just cultivate these things, they use that same energy to project their unhappiness and dissatisfaction with themselves onto you. Some will actually try to take away or destroy what you have ("if I can't have it, no one else will"), be it your business, the man/woman you love, an idea you conceived, friends you have, etc. If nothing else, they'll just try to belittle you in small, insidious ways to try to take your self-confidence away.
Haters are not just people you barely or don't know; they can also be found among your seemingly trustworthy friends or family. I remember the Mexican-American singer Selena was shot dead by her own personal assistant, the person she trusted the most in the world. That was a stark reminder of how duplicitous the hater-mind could be; smiling in your face while stabbing you in the back.
But here's the good part: jealous, insecure haters never say or do anything against someone who's not doing anything special. They only rear their ugly little heads when one is doing something special, something rather stunning in some way, bringing something new into the world. I bet any famous movie star, singer, or other person in the spotlight, knows this: while they get applause and awards, they get negative tabloids and death threats. It just comes with the territory. Whenever you create something beautiful, whenever you've chosen to join in the dance of life rather than sit it out, you get your mix of fans and haters.
So the presence of haters is a positive sign once you understand their nature and motives. In fact, you could view their destructive attention as a good thing! (as long as they haven't shot you dead, that is) In their own dysfunctional way, they have paid you a loving compliment. They've tipped you off that you're on the right track, doing something unique and special. Instead of feeling chagrin at their foolishness, smile and feel a sense of accomplishment. Then, totally forget about it.
That's one way to turn hater energy around; transform it by transforming your reaction to it.
Another good way to turn the energy dynamic around is to make it a point to unplug and recharge your batteries from time to time. This is more effective than anything else, in my opinion. Haters are vampiric so they drain your energy, but you can reverse this any time you want to.
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This person complained of feeling overwhelmed and uncharacteristically indecisive, and aware that this was the result of the cumulative effect of the psychic attacks, yet unsure how to handle it. I suggested trying to turn this energy dynamic around. As we spoke, a couple ways of doing this immediately came to my mind.
Firstly, one could change one's perspective regarding haters, their very presence in one's life. But first, it's helpful to understand their nature and motives.
This is what I've observed about them: haters seem to suffer from a nagging sense of lack. They don't appreciate their unique contribution to the Earth, who they are, what their talents or life purpose are, etc. Rather than take the time to look within and just cultivate these things, they use that same energy to project their unhappiness and dissatisfaction with themselves onto you. Some will actually try to take away or destroy what you have ("if I can't have it, no one else will"), be it your business, the man/woman you love, an idea you conceived, friends you have, etc. If nothing else, they'll just try to belittle you in small, insidious ways to try to take your self-confidence away.
Haters are not just people you barely or don't know; they can also be found among your seemingly trustworthy friends or family. I remember the Mexican-American singer Selena was shot dead by her own personal assistant, the person she trusted the most in the world. That was a stark reminder of how duplicitous the hater-mind could be; smiling in your face while stabbing you in the back.
But here's the good part: jealous, insecure haters never say or do anything against someone who's not doing anything special. They only rear their ugly little heads when one is doing something special, something rather stunning in some way, bringing something new into the world. I bet any famous movie star, singer, or other person in the spotlight, knows this: while they get applause and awards, they get negative tabloids and death threats. It just comes with the territory. Whenever you create something beautiful, whenever you've chosen to join in the dance of life rather than sit it out, you get your mix of fans and haters.
So the presence of haters is a positive sign once you understand their nature and motives. In fact, you could view their destructive attention as a good thing! (as long as they haven't shot you dead, that is) In their own dysfunctional way, they have paid you a loving compliment. They've tipped you off that you're on the right track, doing something unique and special. Instead of feeling chagrin at their foolishness, smile and feel a sense of accomplishment. Then, totally forget about it.
That's one way to turn hater energy around; transform it by transforming your reaction to it.
Unplugging & Recharging
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| It's a tough challenge for those of us living in Western- ized cultures to unplug our gadgets, even for a little while. |
Meditation is a great way to unplug and recharge. The recharge
happens because once distractions are removed from one's
consciousness, the mind and body can spontaneously begin to heal. Peoples' opinions of who you
should be and what you should be doing drop away. Your own false notions and out of
control impulses drop away. And an inner peace wells up and floods your being, and replaces all that stuff. Try it!
I have found when I close myself off for a little while from certain energies I know I'll eventually have to return to again, I emerge from my respite as though anew, a butterfly from a cocoon. I'm focused again, and I feel grounded. Any compromises in my aura are healed, and my inner joy, restored.
The Concept of Pratyahara
I have found when I close myself off for a little while from certain energies I know I'll eventually have to return to again, I emerge from my respite as though anew, a butterfly from a cocoon. I'm focused again, and I feel grounded. Any compromises in my aura are healed, and my inner joy, restored.
The Concept of Pratyahara
At the end of a yoga session some yoga instructors will have you do shanmukhi mudra, where you close off your senses for a little while, and then proceed to meditate afterward. This withdrawal of the senses is called pratyahara in Sanskrit. In this practice, the fingers "close" the ears, eyes, nose and mouth (you're still breathing out of your nose, though).
This procedure is a symbolic way to remind yourself to turn your attention inside and away from the multitude of outside projections aimed at you from media, family, friends, haters, and even from your ego-self.
When you build up a good meditation practice, you will be able to do this at will, in any scenario. Some people think they are naturally good at it, without practicing, but are not; some really are. The mental practice of withdrawal of one's thoughts away from things that are not wholesome is known as mano pratyahara (mano meaning mind).
One could take pratyahara to an even greater, more meaningful level. Karma pratyahara (karma meaning work in Sanskrit) involves disciplining all of one's actions in life, in personal and professional life, into alignment with one's perception of "right livelihood," and consciously withdrawing from all things that are not. This creates a fulfilling sense of true purpose and personal authenticity.
The lovely thing about this and other yoga practices is that they have wider application, should one wish to pursue these avenues. In this way, yoga could be a lifestyle beyond just a physical practice.
Beyond private yoga and meditation practices, multi-day meditation retreats allow you a chance to stay at a beautiful place away from your usual routine and cast of characters. You enjoy a high level of unplugging, like not using electronic devices for a few days (or weeks) and taking a break from eating and drinking what's harsh on the digestive system. So your body and mind have an optimal opportunity to recharge.
Another way to seal and bolster your own energy is to take a fun vacation. This might go without saying, but I know many reading this still need to hear it. Soaking in the energy of a location that brings you joy is more than nice; it is healing. The location could be far away, or right in town, doesn't matter. What matters is that you unplug from the usual people, places and routines in your life, to just recharge and heal.
Finally, sometimes in life a more permanent unplugging may be in order, like ending a relationship, quitting a job or moving to a new city. Whatever the case, you gotta do what you gotta do. Be honest about your needs, and just do it.
Thrive, and your carefully-cultivated positive energy will incite those around you to thrive, too. If one is collecting a little following of life-sucking haters, one should just keep up the great work one is doing, and consider it a compliment, being grateful for the positive messages they're really (albeit inadvertently) sending. At the same time, it's important to clean their slimy energy out of one's system by unplugging from that environment occasionally, and recharging.
I hope the person I talked to remembers to thrive, above all else, and never lets the ever-present haters take away their joy. Sometimes it can make you feel drained and discouraged and want to sit it out, but you've got to dance!....
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Shan means six, and mukha means mouth.
Sanmukha is
the name of the six-headed
god of war, Kartikeya.. Mudra
means a
seal or closing up. This posture is also
called Parangmukhi Mudra (facing
inward), or Yoni Mudra. Yoni means womb,
source. We are reminded to look within
where our
true source of being lies.
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When you build up a good meditation practice, you will be able to do this at will, in any scenario. Some people think they are naturally good at it, without practicing, but are not; some really are. The mental practice of withdrawal of one's thoughts away from things that are not wholesome is known as mano pratyahara (mano meaning mind).
One could take pratyahara to an even greater, more meaningful level. Karma pratyahara (karma meaning work in Sanskrit) involves disciplining all of one's actions in life, in personal and professional life, into alignment with one's perception of "right livelihood," and consciously withdrawing from all things that are not. This creates a fulfilling sense of true purpose and personal authenticity.
The lovely thing about this and other yoga practices is that they have wider application, should one wish to pursue these avenues. In this way, yoga could be a lifestyle beyond just a physical practice.
Other Ways to Recharge
Beyond private yoga and meditation practices, multi-day meditation retreats allow you a chance to stay at a beautiful place away from your usual routine and cast of characters. You enjoy a high level of unplugging, like not using electronic devices for a few days (or weeks) and taking a break from eating and drinking what's harsh on the digestive system. So your body and mind have an optimal opportunity to recharge.
Another way to seal and bolster your own energy is to take a fun vacation. This might go without saying, but I know many reading this still need to hear it. Soaking in the energy of a location that brings you joy is more than nice; it is healing. The location could be far away, or right in town, doesn't matter. What matters is that you unplug from the usual people, places and routines in your life, to just recharge and heal.
Finally, sometimes in life a more permanent unplugging may be in order, like ending a relationship, quitting a job or moving to a new city. Whatever the case, you gotta do what you gotta do. Be honest about your needs, and just do it.
Thrive!
Thrive, and your carefully-cultivated positive energy will incite those around you to thrive, too. If one is collecting a little following of life-sucking haters, one should just keep up the great work one is doing, and consider it a compliment, being grateful for the positive messages they're really (albeit inadvertently) sending. At the same time, it's important to clean their slimy energy out of one's system by unplugging from that environment occasionally, and recharging.
I hope the person I talked to remembers to thrive, above all else, and never lets the ever-present haters take away their joy. Sometimes it can make you feel drained and discouraged and want to sit it out, but you've got to dance!....
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